Sex coaching &
Sexological bodywork

Greater ease and agency in your body, and intimate relationships through safe embodied learning

 

Bodies, sex and sexual difficulties are often stigmatised and not discussed openly and honestly. When challenges arise in these areas, many people suffer quietly and settle for less. Feelings of shame, guilt, disconnection, frustration, or powerlessness are common.

The truth is, everyone runs into challenges that block:

  • Feeling connected to their body

  • Enjoying their body or sex

  • Experiencing intimacy that feels fulfilling

What if instead of settling, you could find knowledgable support that felt safe and open? Where you felt fully accepted? Where you could trust that your body, your yes, and your no would be respected?

As a certified somatic sex coach and sexological bodyworker, this is the kind of support I aim to offer. Open, consent-centered, embodiment-based and inclusive.

Common topics
for somatic sex coaching or sexological bodywork

  • Improving the connection with your body.

    • Education about anatomy and nervous system

    • Learning to listen to your body

    • Unlearning shame and practicing self-compassion

    • Navigating triggers, self-regulation, co-regulation

  • Work around boundaries

    • Practicing being present and at choice

    • Identifying what you want or don’t want

    • Practice asking for what you want or don’t want and saying no

    • Navigating other people’s boundaries

  • Sexual difficulties (often called “sexual dysfunctions”)

    • Navigating pain, chronic illness, mental health or injury

    • Challenges around arousal, orgasm

    • Erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation

  • Practical bodywork

    • Scar tissue remediation

    • Releasing tension in pelvis and pelvic floor

    • Support for pain or numbness

  • Relationship challenges

    • Desire differences, improving sexual satisfaction

    • Increasing intimacy options (sexual and non-sexual)

  • Self discovery, exploring firsts

    • use of toys, anal pleasure, types of orgasm

Starting a session with a moment to connect with ourselves. (No sound)

Discover more about these ways of working

  • Sexological bodywork is a therapeutic approach in which consent and embodiment are prioritised. It supports healing, re-educating your nervous system, releasing shame, and agency through a deeper knowing of your body, how it works, what you do / don’t want and how to get it.

    Fundamental to sessions is:

    • Slowing down to feel your body in the moment

    • Making choices using the information your body is giving you

    • You are at choice and your yes’s and no’s are met with gratitude

    • Explorations with clearly defined intentions and boundaries are used to explore, learn or practice something

    Optional to sessions is:

    • Using touch in an exploration

    • Sexual or erotic focus

    • Touch in intimate areas

    What kinds of explorations are there?

    There are so many kinds of explorations. Here’s a few examples:

    • Practicing setting boundaries, saying no, or asking for something you want

    • Allowing your body to know what it feels like to be able to stop touch in the moment OR safely receive touch that has been requested

    • Bodywork and exercises to release tension in pelvic, genital or anal region.

    • Discovering what kind of (non-erotic or erotic) touch your body is craving

    • Learning ejaculatory choice

    • Understanding what supports / detracts from being present in your body, arousal or orgasms

    • Exploring pleasure when genital response is difficult to access

    • Genital / anal scar remediation

    See the series of blog posts to learn more about sexological bodywork as well as the FAQ below for more about the role of touch, scar tissue and ethics.

  • Somatic sex coaching is tailored to you and your needs and goals. My approach centers learning through the body and felt experiences. I draw from a variety of approaches including sexological bodywork, yoga therapy and body focused mindfulness.

    Sessions are available:

    • via zoom or in person

    • 1 on 1 or with a partner

  • Pain, tension, and numbness in genital and anal regions is common and can be related to scar tissue. Scar tissue may or may not be visible and may result from c-sections, trauma while giving birth, haemorrhoids, painful sex and more.

    The scar tissue treatment and de-armoring techniques I use center consent and support in reducing tension, restoring sensation, and increasing pleasure potential.

    In many cases, it’s also possible to teach you thing you can do to care for your scars.

FAQ

 

  • All genders, bodies, sexualities and lived experiences are welcome.

    I am also experienced working with highly sensitive people, autistic folks and those with AD(H)D.

  • This is good to discuss during a discovery call. In many cases, it comes down to a question of what you want with both approaches being potentially valuable and complementary to each other.

    The somatic coaching and sexological bodywork approaches work with and through the body. They support re-educating your nervous system, practicing things, and getting to know what happens in your body in the moment.

    Collaborative approaches

    Somatic sex coaching and sexological bodywork can be very complementary to any work you might be doing with a sexologist / psychologist. In fact, many practitioners refer their clients to sexological bodyworkers or partner surrogates because a safe learning / practice environment is needed. This also allows for extra support for things which might be coming up in sexological bodywork sessions. The degree of collaboration between the sexological bodyworker and the therapist can vary.

    Further, at times, I may recommend you first see someone else before we work together OR request that you have access to a therapist in case our work together brings up things for which therapy could provide you better support.

  • Sexological bodywork allows clients to learn experientially, through their body. Experiences of consensual touch (non-erotic or erotic) is one of many options and is never required.

    Trust and consent is the foundation. As such all activities including touch within the sessions occur with a specific learning intention, within clearly defined boundaries, and only at the request of the client. Touch boundaries will include the purpose of the touch, duration, and areas of the body which are in/out of bounds.

    Non-sexual touch may be two-way and will not include genital touch. All other touch will be one-way (practitioner to client) based on client request and with the client always free to stop or adjust anything that is happening during the session.

    Make sure you check out our blog posts about sexological bodywork as well.

  • I adhere to the ethics of the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers.

    Prioritising your safety and clear boundaries is an important part of sexological bodywork. In all our work, you are encouraged to stay within your enthusiastic consent. As such you will never be pushed towards a specific kind of touch and are always welcome to ask for touch to change or stop.

    Sexological bodywork includes the option of client-requested genital/anal touch. Reasons might include tension release, educational purpose, or exploring pleasure. Genital/anal touch are only ever included at the request of the client and are always intended in service of the client and not for my own erotic gratification.

  • As a sexological bodyworker, I offer scar tissue remediation for external and internal scarring. Scars result from many causes including birthing a child, c-section, haemorrhoid treatment, chest surgery, and accidents. Scars can lead to numbness, restriction of movement, pain and other difficulties.

    Scar tissue remediation involves manual manipulation and possible processing of emotions and memories related to the scars.

  • After an initial free online consultation,

    I offer individual 2 hr sessions, day long intensives (8hrs including plenty of breaks), and packages of 6 2hr sessions.

    Day long intensives (or multi day private retreats) and combinations of online and in-person work is useful especially for those travelling to work with me.

  • A shower is available at the studio. It is preferred to arrive clean to sessions or to make arrangements to shower at the studio.

    When intra-vaginal or intra-anal work might be indicated, we can discuss any concerns you may have.